Can't figure out where you're going wrong when you approach women? I see guys screw up on their approach all of the time, and you may be making the same mistake that they're making. Players in general just don't understand the importance of an approach. The approach is the most crucial time of a pick-up attempt, and it should be treated as such. You should be opening with the understanding that as far as conversation goes, what is most likely to either make you, or break you, is your approach.

• Philadelphia

So how exactly does a man usually screw up his approach? Is it the words that he is saying, or the way he walked up to a girl? No and no. What I find is that men are not aggressive enough when they first approach and open a girl. When they approach women, they are often weak, they don't quickly follow-up with something else, and they don't establish themselves as someone to be respected. Let's talk about those mistakes, beginning with being weak. Opening weak is what guys do when they're nervous. This type of guy may not be fidgeting, but he speaks very low as if he is expecting to get rejected. He may also try to open in a way that he can pretend that he wasn't talking to the girl if the girl chooses to ignore him (The "walk-by" as I like to call it). This and not showing strong eye contact is very likely to get you rejected. You might get a woman that is talking to you out of pity, but she will eventually reject you.

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• Loveawake Orlando

Sometimes I see guys approach very confidently, but after they open a girl, they don't quickly get the conversation going. For example, a guy might open with "I like your shoes". He then either follows up with another simpleton comment/question, or he just kind of starts interviewing the girl. If you do this, you are boring and aren't worth talking to. Nothing is wrong with that opener, but you quickly have to get a real conversation going by moving on to something else worth talking about. Conversation is all about momentum, and as you're first starting out, you need a lot of it.

• San Francisco

I also see guys fail to establish themselves as someone to be respected. I would say that this is the most common of the mistakes. They don't assert their presence as if to say "hey, I'm here, and don't mistake me for a guy that you can just disrespect.". When I approach a girl or group of women, very rarely does a friend of my target try to talk over me, and very rarely is my target pulled away. Why? Because I quickly establish myself as someone to be respected.

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• San Diego

If you're constantly getting rejected, ignored, or having girls walk away from you, it's most likely because you aren't being aggressive enough when you first open them. Even an unattractive guy can hold a girl's attention for awhile if he is aggressive when he opens her. When approaching women, you have to open them as if you are the man, you have to quickly get the conversation going, and you have to establish yourself as a guy that is to be respected. If you can't do this, then the game is over before you even get started.

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